Upfront- Deal With It!

Being up front!

Oh man you try to tell people how you really feel about them or the situation, not to be mean or cruel, but to be real and honest with them. Why do some people ignore that and be like “oh your just talking, you don’t mean what you’re saying” like really?

I am saying this because my children’s father cannot accept that I do not want to be in a relationship with him. We have not been together in four years and yes, all this time he has been trying to get back together. I just do not understand why he is like this. I want nothing from him, Nothing at all. I wish he will get it, understand it, and move the hell on with his life. Last year I tried to hook him up with someone lol that did not work. To the point where it is so annoying, I usually ignore him, but it is too much. The begging and lying about shit to get me to take him back, trying not to snap on him, but it is so hard.

I do not feel like I am wrong or doing something hurtful, I mean we were in a relationship for almost 10 years and I gave him chance after chance and tried my hardest to make it work despite how I was treated by him, (CRAZY) it is like I tried and got nothing but heartache and headache. I am so over being in a relationship with dude I just want to co- parent and enjoy my single life. Why is it so hard for him to understand? Our relationship was bad and very toxic. Yeah, I am venting about this again maybe because I really do not understand it. Thank you for reading.

5 thoughts on “Upfront- Deal With It!

  1. Ray’Elaine, all I can tell you for certain from my experience – and this is not even someone who has rejected me (!) – is that the touch of a partner is a very sweet thing. And to be forced to go without it is to HURT!

    Studies show that it means more to men than to women. When I was a LITTLE BOY (8) I loved to kiss my girlfriend. It was always me that asked.

    This doesn’t mean that a woman should stay in a relationship where it’s obviously a stupid thing to do. And it is not to say that a man shouldn’t recognize it when it is HIM that needs to change his mind, recognize that he blew it, and get professional help. I’m just telling you how much difference that touch makes in a man’s life.


    1. I agree with that when he wants to talk to me he feels like he has to touch my hand or arm. I get it but he was not like that when we were in a relationship. Thanks


  2. Wow! This sounds so familiar to me. The only thing I can tell you is to either ignore him or kill him with kindness from a distance, he’ll eventually leave you alone. At least it worked for me.

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