Have you ever met somebody, and you hit it off, and you two get along? The good conversations, then boom it freaking ends. Ugh I hate that. That is why I try not to get too attached and get my feelings involved, because people will switch up and change on you. Like do not introduce me to that if you cannot keep it up. I do not like the “oh I will talk to you only on my time” which is when or who knows when can you say irritated? I like consistency is that hard to ask for? I also do not like my time wasted that is so annoying or do not like my damn feelings hurt. These days it is so hard to find a nice genuine person like myself. Maybe I will take a seat and focus on me. Time to myself and not worrying about pleasing the next person. I really liked the person but oh well what can you do? I will move on and let it go. Whatever. Wasted my damn time, SMH
This feeling again, damn maybe I just need to talk to this man and let my feeling be known. another damn night I am spending with him on my mind. It has been like this for days and do not know why. This man probably does not even think about me or care about me but here my stupid self is just in my feelings about him. Sometimes I think I should pickup the phone and call him to hear his voice, I really want him beside me, but oh well. Wish I can get him off my mind, like seriously. Thinking out loud and very emotional, man getting attached and getting your feelings involved sucks. Yes, I hate that I feel this way I feel like I cannot focus I just see him, I can not help it. I just wanted to let this out and I need to learn to keep my feelings in check. Damn, damn, damn this man, I think I am in love (OH MY). I am rambling, need help. What should I do?
Cannot get this man off my mind, damn every day I think of him. His looks, his smile, his voice, and his damn personality. We are a match. We have great chemistry, I can have a good conversation with him, he makes me laugh, and we also can be serious too. It is just something about him. I avoid talking to him because I have strong feelings and do not know how to show it or how to tell him (my scared ass, LOL). I am so guarded and been hurt too many damn times. But for real, I just do not know what to do. Then I worry about if he feels the same way. I do not want to put my feelings out there and he do not feel the same way I do. And that will constantly bother me. What if he does not respond or never talk to me again. I probably sound crazy, but it is how I am feeling and can not shake it. Right now, I want him next to me, us talking and vibing, I want his touch, his eyes on me. Then again, I do not want to look stupid and get hurt. My emotions are everywhere tonight, and I am dinking a little and it is making it worse. Maybe it is bedtime for me because my mind is going miles and I am so over this, maybe because I know the truth.
I guess it is what it is. Just my thoughts and feelings tonight. I really want him, like seriously, whatever.
Hay people I want to talk about two of the biggest things in a relationship that I have to have. Number one is communication; this is a big deal for me especially going foreword with my life. I want a person I can be able to talk to and after talking have a clear understanding on whatever that was discussed. Communication is big in a relationship, it is good if you and your partner can communicate very well, when I say this I mean about any and everything. You and your partner can sit and talk and express how you feel. Communication was one of the reasons my last relationship of 11 years did not work out. I got tired of repeating myself and trying to express what was on my mind the other person never wanted to talk or want to hear me and it was so stressful and irritating. You should be able to talk to the one you love and hope that they understand you. Listen to each other and have each other’s back.
Number two is trust which is a must. I know some will understand me on this. In a relationship you must trust your partner and believe in them. I do not see how you can have a relationship without trust and that is for any relationship type. You must trust a person with your heart, with your feelings, judgement, skills, and financial situations, and wat they tell you. You must trust that between the two it will work out putting your all into someone that you feel have your best interest at heart and that is a big thing to trust. It is not easy. Not talking about just cheating everything above and trusting that they can do the basic responsibilities in life. Can that person keep they word? Can they be who they say they are?. So much to consider and again it is hard especially when meeting a new person. If you have relationships based on lies it will not work, you must have foundation built on love, trust, communication, understanding, strength, faith and patience. Yes, it can be hard finding this but have faith. You have to work at it, relationships are hard work. I pray everyone find love, have faith and love with your all. What do you need in a relationship? What is a deal breaker for you? #JustWrite.
Want to talk about intimacy and different types of intimacy. Also, my thoughts on it and what I want out of intimacy. Of course, the word intimacy in most people mind is just dealing with sex, but there is more to it and other ways to be intimate, and I want to discuss it. Not a professional just my thoughts on it!
First, I want to talk about having a partner in a relationship that you can go to and talk about anything, and I mean anything even on a subject you both do not agree on, you both can have a good discussion about the subject without arguing and fighting about it. This can be in a friendship also with family this is called intellectual intimacy. I would want this in any relationship I am in. Want to be able to talk to a person with complete honesty and not get judgement like I will do for others. A person who can hear what I am saying. Another type is spiritual intimacy a couple who are on the same page and believe the same thing when it comes to spiritually. That can be a good type of way to bond with your partner and a way to talk and heal each other when problems come up. Both having faith and willing to pray together. Praying for each other, building a strong connection through faith. Emotional intimacy is important too, being they’re for a person and having compassion is good. Listening and understanding, a shoulder to cry on. A person who cares if they hurt you or not, a person who protects your heart and you protect theirs. Physical intimacy is a type of intimacy with looking in each other eyes, touching, hugging, kissing, holding hands. Connection through physical touch and letting your partner know how much you love them. I would like all of these in relationship being grounded and strong with each other. Intimacy is not all about sex through these different types is how you can build in a relationship. Take the time to get to know each other on different levels, grow together. And have good communication just want to say that. Again, not a professional
What does intimacy mean to you? How do get to know a person? Do you agree with the types I listed above? Feel free to like, comment, and share.
Get to know each other- Months to years- depend on the people!
Dates- How many? Who knows? People sometimes skip this
The talks- First couple of months all sweet talk on both ends. The I miss you, cannot wait to talk or see you. Shit everything is all fine and dandy at the beginning. the sweet nothings hell everything even intimacy if that is the case
The lying, the half-truths. The I am not telling them this or that. the battle with each other. Can get crazy at times……. Oh well you live and learn……. NEXT
Strong- Whatever Phase, I going to do me no matter what…… (It is this way sometimes)
Both of us will not back down……Fighting and more fighting just damn drama
Is it love? should I give up? Is he playing me? Is she playing me? Is this real…. Nah I am tripping it cannot be…. Why I feel this way? Should I express my true self? Question to ask!
The DOUBTING yourself and each other……..Damn, the struggle to not call, to not text, why? At this point you question everything the good, the bad. How he feels, how she feels, sometimes outside influences like damn sometimes it is too damn much……OKAY
Time to self…… Self-reflect, constantly thinking what if, thinking for the future. is it this person or no should I try again or NO…..Damn think about self-right now. and at this time there might still be doubt but then you like hell why NOT….OKAY Let us try……see where it goes, we let it flow!
THE COMEBACK-IF its love!
Talking again- more often, more topics in depth, talking about goals, what each other want, how you can make it work with each other
Dating again-More communication, No lies, Trust, Commitment, NO Games- AGAIN IF ITS LOVE
Caution- Girl back up, Man Back up- He is mine/Or she is mine very territorial making plans with each other. No one can get the way. NO ONE! LOVE IS STRONG! It is all about us. POSWER of LOVE
MOVING IN- THIS IS THE BIG TEST—–WHEW- We go through the motions as we really get to know each other. What we like, what we dislike, how we like this, how we like that, Privacy, Cleaning, Cooking, Eating, Intimacy, damn all of it- AGAIN if true love is in the picture you will work things out. Fighting and oh believe me you will have the dumbest fights, control. This is a tough battle. are you throwing in the towel? Are you up to it….?
More Communication. More Bonding, More love. We love Strong!
What’s Next? Marriage or more trying? What you think?