I am thinking about life overall and I been thinking about the things that I have failed at in life and wanted to open up about how I deal with those failures. So I have a question my blog peeps, and this can be used as a writing prompt if you are a writer and like to do writing prompts. Question is below as well as my response.
Do you deal with failure positively?
When it comes to failure and I, we are never on the same page. So, to answer this question I do not deal with failure in a positive way. When I fail at something I am usual in an unpleasant mood. I take it to heart, and I feel like I hurt myself when I fail at something. I kind of shut down for a while and just be in a funk. I feel like it takes a while for me to fully process that I have failed. It is not a good feeling. I then start to question everything I have done leading to it. Feel like I must and work so much harder for me not to fail. Failure I know happens from time-to-time life is not easy and pursing your passions, your dreams there is a chance of failure. Me knowing this I still don’t like failing and feel like I am letting myself down or others. I know it is not okay for me to feel this way, but I do. Something I try to work on and know that everything will not always go my way. Failure is a part of life. Some of us need to accept that (ME). Learning to take things how they are when they arrive. Yeah, me and my Failures do not get along (LOL),
How do you deal with failure? How do you move past it? Care to share?
How long does it take for you to really like a person? How long does it take you to let them know how you feel? Do you wait and be patient to see if the feelings are mutual? Or do you let them know right away and deal with the outcome regardless of what it is?
I am asking this because I am an overthinker and I am guarded. So, sometimes I hold back my true feelings and because I do not like rushing at anything. I tend to cut people off early on, regardless of how I feel about them. I question myself constantly as to why I am like this, why do I get scared of being in a relationship? Why do I fear that a person do not really want to be with me? I will avoid them and their questions. Sometimes I think it is because I fear that a person will hurt me, I feel their intentions are not pure (not healthy thinking).
Again, I do not know why I think this way. I hate it because, I have made connections and get along with certain people, they piss me off once and I cut them off with no problem. Yes, that is with family too. I do not like to be hurt, yes I know it is a part of life. I have had it where I do put my feelings out and the other person do not feel the same way and they admit that I was just someone to pass the time ( True as fuck) and I was crushed (No LIE) and want one thing from me( ugh so sad).
I admit here and now that I am scared of love, I am scared of commitment, scared of getting let down by someone I truly love, scared of showing all of me and in return I get shit on my face. It is hard to deal with and no lie, my pride, my ego gets in the way sometimes too. I convince myself that a person is no good for me. I do feel bad to those people who genuinely are there for me, they really care about my feelings, it is real love, and I avoid them because of my own issues, my trust issues. Shit that has noting to do with them. I try to get over this and let things flow. But damn my head and my heart have crazy battles, head-to-head clashing most of the time. I really need help to deal with my crazy ways.
How do I fully let my guard down without so much overthinking? How do I fully put my heart and trust into someone else hands? I feel like I self-sabotage. Been doing this for years and probably missed out on real connections, and opportunities. Wanted to talk about this and let this out because I feel like I have finally met the person for me (I Think) but of course I am overthinking every damn thing, and do not want to move forward. Maybe I feel like he is not really real with me and honestly don’t mean shit to him, and I can definitely be wrong about it all,
Thinking and venting. Crazy I feel more comfortable with writing it out and sharing on my blog before letting him know. But my feelings and how I am dealing with it right now. So WHAT!
My blog peeps I need help (LOL) but seriously cause man, man, man he is on my mind constantly like all day. We have so much in common, I like him way more than I let him know, hell I want him something seriously but like I said above homegirl is scared. But why though?
Okay I am done venting on crazy stuff…. I need to seriously get it together. I am grown and need to act like it!
Anybody understand where I am coming from? Any advice? Been there before?
I want to talk about detachment and what it means to me and get your thoughts on this topic.
For me detachment is breaking away or walking away from any situation that you know is no good for you, or you feel off about situations and are able to walk away from it with no problem easily.
Detachment, for me, is also detaching from people out of fear of what is to come or maybe fear of the unknown. If that makes sense to you. I will stop talking to someone sometimes if my feelings are too much involved. Honestly, detaching from everything comes easy for me. I do not know why I am like this. I get into ghosting mode.
Me detaching myself sometimes is not a good thing because I feel like I hurt people in the process, and that is the last thing I want to do is hurt someone because I definably know the feeling. I just do not like making connections, and then it turns out wrong for me. So, I detach myself before it can happen.
Crazy because I always talk about wanting to find love, but I would have to work on letting my guard down and not walk away so quickly. But saying goodbye is easy. Even when my feelings are in it, I am scared. I need to get my life together, especially at my age, let it all out. Damn, I am so guarded, easily detachable, and have trust and abandonment issues. Yeah, I need to work on all of that. It is not good at all.
Detachment can be for the good and be for the bad depending on your situation. When it comes to detachment what comes to mind? Are you easily detachable? Are you good at goodbyes?
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Thank you for reading.
Detachment: a feeling of not being emotionally involved: to have an air of detachment
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