Relationship Talk! #JustWrite
I am Not an expert. Just my feelings
Hay people, I want to talk about two of the biggest things in a relationship that I have to have. Number one is communication; this is a big deal for me especially going forward with my life. I want a person I can be able to talk to and after talking have a clear understanding on whatever that was discussed. Communication is big in a relationship, it is good if you and your partner can communicate very well when I say this I mean about any and everything. You and your partner can sit and talk and express how you feel. Communication was one of the reasons my last relationship of 11 years did not work out. I got tired of repeating myself and trying to express what was on my mind the other person never wanted to talk or want to hear me and it was so stressful and irritating. You should be able to talk to the one you love and hope that they understand you. Listen to each other and have each other’s back.
Number two is the trust which is a must. I know some will understand me on this. In a relationship, you must trust your partner and believe in them. I do not see how you can have a relationship without trust and that is for any relationship type. You must trust a person with your heart, with your feelings, judgment, skills, and financial situations, and what they tell you. You must trust that between the two it will work out, putting your all into someone that you feel has your best interest at heart and that is a big thing to trust. It is not easy. Not talking about just cheating everything above and trusting that they can do the basic responsibilities in life. Can that person keep their word? Can they be who they say they are?. So much to consider and again it is hard especially when meeting a new person. If you have relationships based on lies it will not work, you must have a foundation built on love, trust, communication, understanding, strength, faith, and patience. Yes, it can be hard finding this but have faith. You have to work at it, relationships are hard work. I pray everyone finds love, has faith and loves with your all.
What do you need in a relationship? What is a deal-breaker for you? #JustWrite.
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Loss and Grief.
Grief is hard to deal with and it is a stressful and overwhelming prolonged process, depending on the person. Grief can take over sometimes. Dealing with the stages of grief acceptance, denial, depression, anger, bargaining, and shock leaves a person feeling down and lost and sometimes no sense of direction when dealing with it all. These stages come to you at any given time. Grieving and feeling like maybe you could have done something different is so draining. Just want to talk about it. Something everyone experienced and would like to share mine.
It has been nine and a half months since my mom has passed. I have often shared my feelings on it on this blog. I am still healing. There have been some really bad and dark days where I did not know what was going to happen to myself or if I would make it through the day. Some days I think of the happy memories and sometimes that helps deal with the pain of it all. Often question why and ask for understanding. I tell you this grieving thing is hard. Thoughts and feelings just pop up at any time and no matter how hard I try to stop the feeling it just does not work at times, guess that is life. Holidays are extremely hard and emotional my mom was a person who was big on holidays and always wanted to celebrate. She would make her own decorations art and craft was her hobby, she loved making pinatas, especially for her grandkid’s birthdays. During holidays and birthdays, I have to try and remember the 4 R’s which are to relax, re-orient, rely, and remember and try to be calm and positive. Yeah, so some days I think of all that and how it is no more of that. This grief thing is tricky you think you are okay and then you are not. I do write about my feelings on it a lot because writing is an outlet and the feelings are so strong and I do not have anyone to talk to but my notebooks, and blog. It is weird how some places I do not want to go to because they were her favorite places to go and shop or eat. Do yall think that is crazy? I try some days to overcome it, but it is a challenge I get anxious. And not to mention I grieve over my grandma still who passed when I was about 12 or 13, we were close, so I am always thinking about them both and I know they are together in heaven.
I know in life we will experience the loss of a loved one or any type of loss. That does not mean it is easy to get over, it seems like it gets worse I am constantly thinking about her and wanting to talk to her. Man, grief sucks a lot and I freaking hate it. Another reason I like to write about it is that if I stopped writing my mom will be highly upset, she was a big supporter she wanted me to write her life story and, she had ideas to do books for kids. I miss her so much and our talks. my writing comes from my grandma she uses to write poetry and I use to read them and wanted to start writing on my own. Grief Sucks yeah, I will keep stating that
I know for a fact of course in this life and world that I am not alone dealing with loss and grief. It is not easy at all. Especially still having to work and take care of my family, I feel so empty sometimes and often want to be alone in my bed. Not only do I have to deal with just my feelings on the loss but my kid’s and siblings’ feelings also. Have to make sure they are doing okay. It gets hard, I am still hurt and feel confused, feel pained. Again, grief sucks a lot
I pray we all heal from losing someone, I pray we have the strength to make it through those tough days. I pray we find peace and happiness as we are healing. Must take it slow and give yourself time to fully understand everything. Just wanted to touch on this topic I know that people do not like to deal with it or maybe hear about it. But it is a part of life whether we like it or not. Again, to those grieving, I pray for you and your family. Praying helps and with time heals. One day at a time……Damn loss and grief
Blessings and Love!
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**Honestly not that long of a post and this really took me three days to write..**
A Process II: Life Happens
Have you ever had those moments when you just sit back and think about your life? You think of everything and wonder how you got to where you are in life right now. You think about the good and tough times, and you think of if it went a different way, how would your life be? If this did not happen or that did not happen. Have you ever stopped for a moment and questioned yourself? You question the sacrifices you have made; you question your thought process and everything you have done. Sometimes we can not help but take those trips down memory lane, sometimes just to see how far we have come or to think of happy times. Maybe to keep yourself in check.
That is me today I do not know why just was thinking about my past and where I am at today. I am blessed, honestly did not think I would make it this far. It has been a journey, and I feel like, within the last couple of years, I have become a better version of myself, and it was a freaking process, and it was hard. Some days it still is hard. I used to question why I was still here in this world, why I was put here. I questioned so much in my life from childhood, education, lifestyles, and life in general. I do not miss the bad, horrible, and all the ugly shit at all, though it made me stronger seriously can do without it and hate thinking about that stuff. It pops up, though. Whatever still healing here. Anyways thinking of how far I have come, and I must say I am satisfied. I have become content with life and happy with my writing when years ago, I was afraid to do so. had so many ideas and was scared to put my work out there, so I am happy that I decided to do so. It is time I really make it happen for my family and myself. Continue to work my hardest, get this book done and continue to be the better version of myself. I really need to stop doing so much questioning myself or maybe reflecting. I do not know just thinking tonight and thinking about my whole life sometimes, I do not know why shit just pops up in my head, and I get frustrated with everything. And then I try to keep myself busy, and sometimes that does not work. Life is a process, I tell you. I know I am not the only one, of course, it is this thing we call life. Life happens, and there are obstacles. The process of life. Me being me and overthinking…… Of course
Life, Life Life……
Have you ever taken that trip? Down memory lane. Have you just thought about the unknown? Thought what if? Or ask yourself why something happened? Are you an overthinker as well?
Blessings and Love.
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Night of darkness….I Think!!!
My mind is hazy my eyes are watered I am confused as I look down at the object in my hand, I could not have, no this is not happening. As I look around me and see all the damage that was done, I start panicking and screaming the mess before me was a terrifying scene.
I ran to the bathroom and the face before me was not mine. Who is this person what have they done with the old me?
Then I look down at my bloody hands trying to figure what has happened I try washing the blood from my hands and arm I am scrubbing hard and screaming the word no over and over. Then there was pain all through my body, then DARKNESS………… WTF
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**Just A Poem/Short Story**