Get to know each other- Months to years- depending on the people!
Dates- How many? Who knows? People sometimes skip this
The talks- The first couple of months all sweet talk on both ends. The I miss you, and cannot wait to talk or see you. Shit, everything is all fine and dandy at the beginning. the sweet nothings hell everything even intimacy if that is the case
The lying, the half-truths. The I am not telling them this or that. the battle with each other. Can get crazy at times……. Oh well, you live and learn……. NEXT
Strong- Whatever Phase, I going to do me no matter what…… (It is this way sometimes)
Both of us will not back down……Fighting and more fighting just damn drama
Is it love? should I give up? Is he playing me? Is she playing me? Is this real…. Nah I am tripping it cannot be…. Why do I feel this way? Should I express my true self? Question to ask!
The DOUBTING yourself and each other……..Damn, the struggle to not call, to not text, why? At this point, you question everything the good, the bad. How he feels, how she feels, sometimes outside influences like damn sometimes it is too damn much……OKAY
Time to self…… Self-reflect, constantly thinking what if, thinking for the future. is it this person or no should I try again or NO…..Damn, think about self-right now. and at this time there might still be doubt but then you like hell why NOT….OKAY Let us try……see where it goes, we let it flow!
THE COMEBACK-IF its love!
Talking again- more often, more topics in depth, talking about goals, what each other wants, how you can make it work with each other
Dating again-More communication, No lies, Trust, Commitment, NO Games- AGAIN IF ITS LOVE
Caution- Girl back up, Man Back up- He is mine/Or she is mine very territorial making plans with each other. No one can get the way. NO ONE! LOVE IS STRONG! It is all about us. POSWER of LOVE
MOVING IN- THIS IS THE BIG TEST—–WHEW- We go through the motions as we really get to know each other. What we like, what we dislike, how we like this, how we like that, Privacy, Cleaning, Cooking, Eating, Intimacy, damn all of it- AGAIN if true love is in the picture you will work things out. Fighting and oh believe me you will have the dumbest fights, control. This is a tough battle. are you throwing in the towel? Are you up to it….?
More Communication. More Bonding, More love. We love Strong!
What’s Next? Marriage or more trying? What do you think?
Cannot get this man off my mind, damn every day I think of him. His looks, his smile, his voice, and his damn personality. We are a match. We have great chemistry, I can have a good conversation with him, he makes me laugh, and we also can be serious too. It is just something about him. I avoid talking to him because I have strong feelings and do not know how to show it or how to tell him (my scared ass, LOL). I am so guarded and been hurt too many damn times. But for real, I just do not know what to do. Then I worry about if he feels the same way. I do not want to put my feelings out there and he do not feel the same way I do. And that will constantly bother me. What if he does not respond or never talk to me again. I probably sound crazy, but it is how I am feeling and cannot shake it. Right now, I want him next to me, us talking and vibing, I want his touch, his eyes on me. Then again, I do not want to look stupid and get hurt. My emotions are everywhere tonight, and I am dinking a little and it is making it worse. Maybe it is bedtime for me because my mind is going miles and I am so over this, maybe because I know the truth.
I guess it is what it is. Just my thoughts and feelings tonight. I really want him, like seriously, whatever.
How long does it take for you to really like a person? How long does it take you to let them know how you feel? Do you wait and be patient to see if the feelings are mutual? Or do you let them know right away and deal with the outcome regardless of what it is?
I am asking this because I am an overthinker and I am guarded. So, sometimes I hold back my true feelings and because I do not like rushing at anything. I tend to cut people off early on, regardless of how I feel about them. I question myself constantly as to why I am like this, why do I get scared of being in a relationship? Why do I fear that a person do not really want to be with me? I will avoid them and their questions. Sometimes I think it is because I fear that a person will hurt me, I feel their intentions are not pure (not healthy thinking).
Again, I do not know why I think this way. I hate it because, I have made connections and get along with certain people, they piss me off once and I cut them off with no problem. Yes, that is with family too. I do not like to be hurt, yes I know it is a part of life. I have had it where I do put my feelings out and the other person do not feel the same way and they admit that I was just someone to pass the time ( True as fuck) and I was crushed (No LIE) and want one thing from me( ugh so sad).
I admit here and now that I am scared of love, I am scared of commitment, scared of getting let down by someone I truly love, scared of showing all of me and in return I get shit on my face. It is hard to deal with and no lie, my pride, my ego gets in the way sometimes too. I convince myself that a person is no good for me. I do feel bad to those people who genuinely are there for me, they really care about my feelings, it is real love, and I avoid them because of my own issues, my trust issues. Shit that has noting to do with them. I try to get over this and let things flow. But damn my head and my heart have crazy battles, head-to-head clashing most of the time. I really need help to deal with my crazy ways.
How do I fully let my guard down without so much overthinking? How do I fully put my heart and trust into someone else hands? I feel like I self-sabotage. Been doing this for years and probably missed out on real connections, and opportunities. Wanted to talk about this and let this out because I feel like I have finally met the person for me (I Think) but of course I am overthinking every damn thing, and do not want to move forward. Maybe I feel like he is not really real with me and honestly don’t mean shit to him, and I can definitely be wrong about it all,
Thinking and venting. Crazy I feel more comfortable with writing it out and sharing on my blog before letting him know. But my feelings and how I am dealing with it right now. So WHAT!
My blog peeps I need help (LOL) but seriously cause man, man, man he is on my mind constantly like all day. We have so much in common, I like him way more than I let him know, hell I want him something seriously but like I said above homegirl is scared. But why though?
Okay I am done venting on crazy stuff…. I need to seriously get it together. I am grown and need to act like it!
Anybody understand where I am coming from? Any advice? Been there before?
Hay people I want to talk about two of the biggest things in a relationship that I have to have. Number one is communication; this is a big deal for me especially going foreword with my life. I want a person I can be able to talk to and after talking have a clear understanding on whatever that was discussed. Communication is big in a relationship, it is good if you and your partner can communicate very well, when I say this I mean about any and everything. You and your partner can sit and talk and express how you feel. Communication was one of the reasons my last relationship of 11 years did not work out. I got tired of repeating myself and trying to express what was on my mind the other person never wanted to talk or want to hear me and it was so stressful and irritating. You should be able to talk to the one you love and hope that they understand you. Listen to each other and have each other’s back.
Number two is trust which is a must. I know some will understand me on this. In a relationship you must trust your partner and believe in them. I do not see how you can have a relationship without trust and that is for any relationship type. You must trust a person with your heart, with your feelings, judgement, skills, and financial situations, and wat they tell you. You must trust that between the two it will work out putting your all into someone that you feel have your best interest at heart and that is a big thing to trust. It is not easy. Not talking about just cheating everything above and trusting that they can do the basic responsibilities in life. Can that person keep they word? Can they be who they say they are?. So much to consider and again it is hard especially when meeting a new person. If you have relationships based on lies it will not work, you must have foundation built on love, trust, communication, understanding, strength, faith and patience. Yes, it can be hard finding this but have faith. You have to work at it, relationships are hard work. I pray everyone find love, have faith and love with your all. What do you need in a relationship? What is a deal breaker for you? #JustWrite.
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